“There is only so much you can achieve before affecting your efficiency and state of mind. Only take on what you can do — then politely, but firmly, turn down all other requests.” – Paul Wilson from The Little Book of Calm.
Your happiness should always come first. Maintaining a positive mindset, and keeping up a good flow of positive energy is the key to acquiring happiness. Our emotions are contagious. Don’t frown because you will only bring yourself and everyone else around you down. Happiness is the most contagious of them all. A simple smile from a stranger could make my whole day. What you do with your happiness is up to you. You can share it with anyone you care about, anyone in your family, or anyone in the world. Everyone wants happiness, so you will have no problem sharing your happiness with anyone.
The endless supply of people to please can be tiring, and that can be a problem for a lot of people. When you are in a good mood, it is easier to say “yes” to things. Even things you may not normally do, but you might be in such a good mood that you just don’t care. This is where things can get complicated, and this is where problems can happen.
Occasionally throughout your life, you will be asked to do things that you simply don’t want to do. If you don’t want to do something, then don’t do it. It doesn’t matter why, but don’t lie. You can remove yourself from any situation at anytime you choose. You are not bound to anything. Do not be afraid to say “no”. You have the right to, and so does everybody else in this world. Go ahead and practice a little.
“No thank you.”
“I’m sorry, but no.”
“No. Maybe another time.” (Don’t lie. Only say “maybe another time” if you are actually considering to do it another time. If you don’t plan on ever dong that thing “another time”, then just say “no” and nothing else.)
Do what you can for people. It’s always nice to help someone out. You never know when you may need help yourself. I firmly believe that I must help others get to where they want to go, so that I may get to where I want to go in life. This can get exhausting for people, or maybe sometimes you simply don’t want to be helpful. Maybe you just want to chill or hangout. Do you first, and if you still want to help then go for it. As long as you aware of the fact that you can say “no” at anytime, then you should never feel stressed. Don’t worry, be happy. Say “yes” if you want, or say “no” if you don’t want to. Simple, yet somehow difficult for many to pull off. It doesn’t have to stay that way. Stay cool, calm, and collected, then make your choice. “Yes” or “no”.